The day you give birth to your son or daughter – or to many sons or daughters, you always have this vision: the day they walk across the stage and are handed their high school diploma.
That day came faster than you thought it would. Talk about a blink of your eye.
Wasn’t it only last year when you brought them home from the hospital? I remember when my oldest son rolled over for the very first time…. I missed it! But only a day or two later he did it again, but this time it was right between my legs. I smile at this memory.
When he tried to put a piece of French toast into the VCR player when he was around 2 years old; he had the right idea…
I just saw the photo earlier today of my son’s first day of kindergarten. Hard to believe they were that little. And harder to believe that it was only a few weeks ago that the photo was taken…
When my daughter was in kindergarten her teacher thought we should get her tested for gifted. We did. But you know what? My daughter didn’t want to be with the gifted kids. She wanted to be with the “normal” kids – so that’s where she stayed.
Driver’s licenses, proms, college applications (I think I hated them more than they did), and college acceptances, all only happened last week or was it the week before?
I remember sitting at my son’s school and my daughter’s school for both graduations several years ago thinking the same thing: how did they grow up so fast? It was only last year when I brought them home from the hospital. Heck, I only graduated high school a little while back.
Brought the tissues, used the tissues. So darn proud of each of them. And so proud of their friends as well.
As parents we know, and we’ve stressed throughout their entire senior year of high school to ENJOY every moment. It’s a time that you will never experience ever again. That close bond of life or death, tragedy or victory, pass or fail. All those firsts, and lasts you had with your buds. ENJOY IT ALL.
The Wake-up Call
After that last summer when high school was over, friends soaking up the very last drops of friendship, a new pathway opened – COLLEGE. Tears flowed easily, we sent them off to adulthood with no parental guidance.
When my chicks would fly back to the coop for the holidays and breaks, they of course would make it a point to see their friends. Freshman year was easy because everyone went home for everything, birthdays, dentist visits, you name it, you could pretty much connect with “an old” high school friend. Life was good.
Sophomore year got a little more complicated because some friends had to work over the summer. Some had internships. Some studied abroad.
Junior year was even worse.
So, at this time, when I saw my daughter graduate college – it was a different experience than when my son graduated college. I knew my son was going to go onto grad school. But with my daughter, it was different.
I was so excited for her (for my son as well) because I knew all of the hours she dedicated to studying. Nursing school was TOUGH. When they announced her name, and she walked across the stage I was, what I always am, a very proud mamma!
But I didn’t have any of those warm fuzzy memories of bringing her home from the hospital. My thoughts were more about her future. Wouldn’t say they were warm and fuzzy. I would say they were excited – excited for her next chapter.
On the car ride back home, I told her what a wonderful place she was at in her life. College degree, no student debt, a promising career. Yes, it would be an adjustment moving back home. No more college friends. Not being able to see all her old high school friends – none of which moved back home.
But she held a rainbow, with a bright future in the palm of her hands. It was hers. The beginning of her LIFE had finally begun. All she had to do was run.
Do you remember when you felt like you had the world in your hands? You had your entire life in front of you – oh the things you would do and see.
When she got into our house, looked around, I could see that she was digesting how her perspective had changed. Gotta’ love those moments as a mother. She said, “Now all I have to do is figure out what I want to do with the rest of my life.”
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