“The reality is that you will grieve forever. You will not ‘get over’ the loss of a loved one; you will learn to live with it. You will heal and you will rebuild yourself around the loss you have suffered. You will be whole again, but you will never be the same. Nor should you be the same, nor would you want to.” -Elizabeth Kubler-Ross and John Kessler
This is a true story. Dad called me on the phone (I wrote down our conversation as soon as I hung up, December 28, 2008) just 4 weeks after mom died.
“I had a bad day today Helena. I thought about her (mom) all day, probably because I was home alone putting the Christmas stuff away, sorting through the photos to get them ready for the new albums.”
“Awe dad, I’m sorry, I had two really bad days, but I’m better today.”
“I missed her all day. You know what I did?”
“No, what did you do?”
“I went under her email account and typed an email to my email address that said, “I miss you,” and then I emailed it to myself, like it was coming from mom.”
At this point I could barely speak and had tears falling from my eyes.
“So then I went under my email account and saw an email from mom. I returned “her” email that said, “I miss you too.”
Do you have any similar memories? I would love to hear them.
By the way, I couldn’t type this without tears.
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