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(old chickens make good broth) is a common saying in Italy. Essentially it means as women age, they become well rounded in every sense. Mentally, physically, emotionally, and they have awesome perspective. [caption id="attachment_584" align="alignleft" width="169"]NYC with Elisabetta NYC with Elisabetta, October 2017[/caption] The first time my Italian friend said that to me I thought it was brilliant. I do not hold a degree in anything. I am just a woman, a wife, a mother, a sister and one time long ago, a daughter. This blog is opinion only. With that said, I am writing because I think there needs to be a place where women, in their 40’s-90’s, have a place to commiserate, laugh, share, and to see that we are all the same. I wish for this blog to be a place where you spend 10 minutes of your day or week to kick back and nod your head, “yep, I’ve been there…” Tell me your stories! Share with me your joys and struggles and achievements. I want to share them with everyone else who is reading. I know we are the same on the inside. Because we are older chickens and yes, we do make good broth.]]>

      1. Hey, I live in East Tulsa. Not much grey but I will be 68 in February. I guess I’m as young as I feel depending on the day. I am raising my granddaughter that is 5. She is my blessing and won’t let me get old.

        1. I raised two grandchildren from ages 3 months and 3 years. Now the 3 year old will be graduating from the university of Minnesota in the spring, apredidentialscholar and the 3 month old is now a college freshman twobeonderful kids that kept me forever young

        2. I will turn 70 on the 23rd of this month, and like you I have very little grey hair. My younger sisters have more than I do. I just love it! Lol

      2. I’m 71 and moved to a new state recently. It’s difficult trying to fit in a small town where most everyone grew up together. I engage in activities that that feed my spirit such as acting, water aerobics, gardening and various craft projects. Our local library offers interesting workshops. Just do you.

        1. Tku for sharing. Gave me some ideas as I’m semi-retired single mom who’s spent my life working and caring for/about others.

          1. Quilting Groups are great places to get to know other women. Quilters are some of the most caring, sharing women I know.

        2. I’m in the same situation. Moved from my hometown and was so excited I’ve been here 10yrs and still have no friends I’m 68yrs young unfortunately there isn’t anything I could even get involved in. My husband and I keep very active as we transition from retirement into this life exploring the possibility of relocating to be by sister I a city in Idaho.

    1. I too struggle with what seems to me,to be a demon….Im 59 and find myself in this lonely place…I’m told that aging can be a gentle and gracious process,a time when we can finally stand tall and strong and find freedom enough to be comfortable in our own truth…I’m yet to find that seemingly mythical place where peace and freedom reign supreme.I guess I’ll continue to search!?! Much universal lov to u and all.XX

      1. Search inside yourself. Do what interests you have for yourself everything else will come.

        1. Avis, you have part of the formula that guides these years of my life also. Peace and joy with life comes from within………..

      2. I just wrote quite a bit to you,,,,,something stupid happened, don’t know if you received it.
        Now I have to start ALL OVER.
        PEACE and Freedom are found in the LORD JESUS CHRIST WHO IS SAVIOR of the WORLD. ALSO in GOD’S WORD which is GREAT, Read in Psalms and Proverbs.
        Missionary Baptist Church’sARE EXCELLENT. I don’t know where you are so as to recommend one. I’m 63 years old, been GOD’S child since age 6,,,,58 years. I PRAY this information is helpful & GOD’S BEST TO YOU.

        1. I just wrote from my heart to Lee Wear.
          I am in the Texas Panhandle where the WIND ALWAYS BLOWS.
          🕇❤🕇 🇨🇱🇺🇸🇨🇱

        2. Everyone should put God first in their life and everything else will work out for good to those who follow God’s Word. Daily Bible readings will keep us on the right path. Loved your statement!!

      3. Hi don t give up you will eventually find a peace and calm within yourself. It’s about accepting the changes in your life at that time and reflection. Is there something going on and u can’t see what path to take? Don’t worry or feel u have to make decisions until you’re ready. I’ve been there x

      4. I’m with you Lee. Still finding my way at 60. I think a lot of how you feel can be affected by the things in your life. My best years were my 40’s . Would like to change my 60’S. My husband is 17 years older and has dementia which makes me feel very old some days!

        1. I have a sister in law who is 59 and taking care of her husband with dementia. He’s in his 80’s. She gets depressed and struggles every day, but she won’t give up. I retired after 48 Years in long term care and know how heart breaking it can be to watch someone you love decline.There should be groups in your community that may could help. Maybe senior centers. Sitters, etc. It’s important for you to take breaks and refresh yourself. YOU are in my prayer’s. I’m here if you need to vent, etc. God bless you.

  1. Love this idea. I’m a 67 yr old grey feather. It would be nice to talk to others my age about everyday trials and joys.

    1. I’m 68 and became a grandparent little girl was two, a couple of days ago a bundle of fun and the terrible two stage as well! Im struggling with the fact I don’t have the energy to do the things I could easily do in my younger days. Joys and trials. X

      1. I can identify with this. I’m 65 and Nanny to two little boys aged 4 and 2. I say to my daughter that with her being an older Mum (she was 38 when she gave birth to her first) this makes me an older Nanny and I certainly feel it sometimes. Having said that, my
        heart bursts with joy and pride whenever I think of them. Watching the 4 year old in his first Nativity last week was wonderful, something I thought I’d never be fortunate enough do.

      2. Agree sometimes my body doesn’t like to keep up with my desire to do things with my 5 grandchildren lol

      3. Hi Ladies, I wish to express to the older grandmother’s I truly understand, because I am 71 and I am great grandma to a 1 yr beautiful little boy, which I babysit all day while mommie is in school and grandma works. So I have help raised his mother now I will help raise him till mom is graduated and Dad is out of boot camp.

  2. As a proud 83 year old, I have been there and done that, and survived. Hurts, betrayals, deaths, cancer. Damn, I am strong and still here. I have had a career, wonderful marriage, 4 childen, 3 living. 6 grandchildren and 8 great grands. I am blessed, but lordy, it was a struggle!

  3. Yes I’m certainly a grey feather with 5 grandsons. And 1 granddaughter I have never seen since she was 3 months. However delighted to know I will be able to enjoy the next edition soon to arrive in January 2019 and it will be a blessed Girl. Yes Yes Yes. 😄😆😊

  4. At 70, I’m facing a whole new life! Sometimes the stress is overwhelming! I’ve experienced so many challenges and changes. Does it ever get easier?

      1. I also start each day giving thanks for my family, friends and my puppies. I have experienced many challenges but I am so grateful for my blessings right now. I am 81 years old. I am the only member of my family who has lived to enjoy children, grandchildren, and great grandchildren and I really do!

    1. I will be 71 next week. Been married and widowed twice. Last one was 6 years ago. I thought my life was just grandkids and family. Then 3 months ago a miracle happened. I met a fabulous man outside the grocery store. He asked me for coffee after talking for 10 minutes and my world has changed. Btw he’s 15 years younger. He treats me like no one ever did. It’s like I’m the only person in the world when we’re together. It can happen for you too.

  5. A 65 year old woman (doctors words) not without health issues.
    I am proud to be a grey feather. Mother of two grandmother of six. Enjoying life.
    Hello all x x

  6. I might have been born in a particular year. I might have a couple of body and facial lines. But ….. I will never accept the notion of growing old. I like to think I repr6esrnt a variation of The Ode – I will not grow and the years will not condemn. At the going down of the sun and in the morning there ard still adventures to have.

    1. Good on you Kte i feel the same way i’m only 73 and i dont fell old just my legs do want to walk properly but i still lkie to do things sociaiily sexualy and work go out go to the bowls i’m off the farm now but i miss it teribly and fell a little bit lost in town but tomorrows another day another adventure and i intend to live life to the fullest so enjoy all and thank you for this page cheers

  7. I can relate to many people on this site. I have 5 grandchildren all boys ages 18 to 1. I have many interests and love to travel.

  8. Hi there. Is it ok to join the site if you live in Ireland?
    I’ve just turned 63 have 7grown up kids and have 11 grandkids?
    Time I think to put myself first in 2019. Get out there and find something new!!

    1. What a beautiful name you have Kathleen Kane! My name is Felicity. I live in Australia but my heart is in Dublin where my 3 grandchildren live with their Mam and Da. I’m 72 so I guess I qualify as a grey feather also. May happiness fill your days! 💚

    2. My name is Mary Kathleen O’Hara(maiden name) I was born in the U.S. and would love to go to Ireland someday. My married name is Badeker and I go by Kathy.

    3. I love your spirit!!! Some of my family came from Ireland in the 1700’s, but never found out from where in Ireland. I’m 66, retired, plenty of grey hair and love it. I have a wonderful husband that is 58, still works, I have 5 grown children, 19, grandchildren, and 4 great grands, but they’re all spread out. I took painting back up after I retired, no masterpieces but it fills my soul with peace. Di something wonderful for yourself!!!

  9. I am a Grey Feather and proud of it. I always say i earned everyone of them. Mother of 3 grandmother to 5. Learning new things everyday. Love this site and how positive it is!

  10. Hello evreone I too am a grey feather but I didn’t realise it until I found this page. I thought I was just old. I am 74 with 18 grand children and 5 great grandchildren with another due in April. I often feel lost and without a place or purpous even though I know my family love me. It is nice to know that many of you are feeling the same way and that I am part of a group of amazing women and not alone thank you x

  11. Lovely comments I am 62yrs young married 2 children and 4 beautiful grandchildren I am retired but very busy with family and helping with granchildren
    I live in Co Cork

  12. Almost 62 yr old grey feather here in NC. I was a mother of one and became a grandmother at age 40. Daughter dropped the twins off and forgot to come pick them up. So at age 42, l became mom again. Not what l thought l’d be doing at that stage of my life. Both girls had and still have some cognitive issues, so they’re still at home with us. But they’ve become lovely young ladies with loving, kind hearts. They both have jobs and have bought cars. It’s been a long road, but they’ve us better people. God put them right where they needed to be, and gave us the strength to deal with all the drama!

    1. God bless you and your family! I believe that God puts Angels here on Earth to work his miracles. You must be one of them and you’re right, those kids are right where they needed to be!

  13. Hi, my name is Maria. I’m a grey feather (silver, I like to say) from Owasso, Oklahoma. 63 years old, mother if 3 wonderful children, 1 so, 2 daughters, and proud to say, 9 grandchildren and 1 great grandson. Looking forward to 2019, with open mind, closer to knowing the Real Jesus, more time for family and friends!

  14. At 68, I have moved to a single family home about an hour away from where I lived for over 30 years (the last 8 in a condo). Why? Because about a year ago, after 8+ months of depression & resultant absence of any desire to do anything, for perhaps the first time in my life, I thought about the things that make me happy. It is a common story for women–we spend the bulk of our lives putting others first. I also realized that ‘conventional wisdom’ does not always apply. I’ve upsized; my house has stairs; I’ll need to mow & shovel snow; I’ll garden; I’ll get a dog in Spring; perhaps another in Autumn. Geographically, I now live about 20 minutes from my favorite family members; the stairs, after just a few weeks, are already helping me feel stronger with more vitality; the additional activity will enhance this increasingly essential aspect of growing older; the gardening, which I loved 40 years ago, will contribute to that and will once again be a joy in my life. And a fenced yard for DOGS! I had forgotten how happy dogs make me. It was two Labradors, members of a cousin & her husband’s family, who brought all this about.
    Some have said I’m brave to have made this change, others that I’m crazy. Frankly, my dears, I don’t give a hoot what they think or say, & that is perhaps the best thing about becoming a ‘senior’.
    I hope this is encouragement for others to make changes in your lives that will make you happy. And don’t underestimate the power of small changes. Wishing all the wonderful Grey Feathers all the best.
    I would welcome correspondence & perhaps in person conversation, especially if you live live in the West/Southwest Chicago suburbs….👩‍🎨

    1. You inspire me! Love your story, Janan. Thanks for sharing. I just turned 58, and it was meant for me to come across your words tonight!
      Greensburg, Indiana

  15. Hi. I live in Whangarei, New Zealand. Am 62 the end of this month. Have 3 adult children and 2 granddaughters.

  16. Way cool! I have seen two other grey feathers (we just didn’t know we had a hip name for being close to 60) .moving on, I have seen them meet their moon doggies because another grey feather suggested they meet I am in San Antonio, perhaps we could do a mixer,God knows our children would never let us on line date

  17. I found this group by accident and couldn’t be happier. I am a 59 year old grey feather from Illinois. I am still trying to find my place in life after caring for my husband for four years and consequently his death a little over a year ago. We were married almost 35 years. It will lovely having other Grey feathers to talk with.

  18. Accidentally came upon this sight, really enjoyed reading all the comments. I just retired this past May, worked 20 years in a Catholic elementary school teaching children about how much Our Lord loves them. I have let myself go for sometime and now it is time to get serious about my health. I have diabetes, am overweight so I recently joined TOPS for the support. Also joined Silver Sneakers and take water aerobics three times a week. Wish me luck on my new journey!

  19. Would love to be a member of the group. Looking forward to learning from different members.

    1. Hi Felicity – another greyfeather living in Australia! I’m 60, divorced, on a disability pension (awaiting 5 surgeries that will hopefully make me more mobile) and have 2 adult sons. No grandchildren yet. I’d love to remarry, but my situation is far from ideal! Also, travel is a bug that’s in my system but can’t get out! Whereabouts in Aus. are you? I’m on the Gold Coast. Over the years, because of my decline in mobility, I’ve lost all my friends – with the level of difficulty (and pain), I could no longer get out to interact socially and it was too much to ask people for lifts, so I’ve become rather isolated. Although my oldest son shares a house with me, I feel the need for real connection with people around my age. I’m a committed Christian and God has, so far, kept me sane! Looking forward to popping in here every so often 🙂

  20. Hi. I love the title Grey Feather! I am 66 and had never colored my hair, so I have lots of grey feathers and some white ones, too. I am a retired pastor living about one hour west of Chicago. I have two children and three grandchildren. They are the joy of my life!
    This stage of life has lots of challenges. I have some physical issues as well as struggles with depression. I have a marvelous therapist and the word of the day is acceptance.
    I look forward to learning more about and from all of you

  21. I stumbled upon your page today. What a joy! I am recently retired and trying to figure out this new life. I am not a shy person, far from it, but developing friends far from our military friendships is challenging. I am trying to learn to be my own best friend but I have never had time to just be. I look forward to connecting with those of a like age and sentiment. I am a Sassy Senior!

  22. I’m so glad I, somehow, stumbled on your site whilst going through my messages on facebook :). I’m 60, divorced and live in Queensland, Australia – originally from South Africa. There have been quite a lot of difficult times over the past 2 decades, but I live in hope that things, physically especially, will improve! God is my rock :). Would love to remarry, but am waiting for several surgeries which will hopefully improve my mobility and thus lessen the isolation. Apart from the physical side of things I certainly don’t feel anywhere near my age! Will definitely come back to visit 🙂

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