Anonymous writes, “My husband and I relocated earlier this year (just before the pandemic) and I am not adjusting. I moved away from family and friends to live with my aging mother-in-law…
The transition has not gone well for me. The house is not our own, and I feel like a guest. I have no privacy because I get up every morning to her friend already being here, so I don’t have the quiet morning time I cherish. The house is cluttered, unattractive and dirty.
I am starting to feel like the cleaning lady more than a wife, and my own work (I work remotely) is suffering. My husband is used to his mother’s ways and keeps saying “We’ll get there.” But although I respect my mother-in-law and know she needs someone here, I am unhappy.
We live in a tiny town, are atheists, and have no neighbors. I have no way to make friends, as there isn’t even a book club within an hour’s drive. My mother-in-law needs help with daily tasks but never thanks anyone and I’m tired of hearing, “That’s just how she is.” She is not rude, just oblivious.
Without friends, nowhere to go (we’re in the middle of nowhere), and not being church goers, I feel lost and miserable. Living in someone else’s house and not being able to make it my own home makes it worse. I am afraid my marriage will end over this. How do we get past this?”