“Is it wrong in today’s times to expect a man to take care of you? (I have old fashioned values and I’ve never been a feminist.) I’m a 63 year old retired school teacher with a very small pension and I recently married a very dear man. However…
I’m now realizing he thinks I should be contributing to the expenses as he is. I do the shopping, cook the meals, keep the house spotless, keep the laundry done, and keep him happy in the bedroom. He is semi-retired and keeps the yard maintained and takes out the trash.
I just sold my house and came out with around $50k after paying off the mortgage. We are getting ready to sell his house and move to another town, downsizing. He thinks I should invest my money into the new house, leaving me with no savings. He has his own savings account and has a very large piece of property (40 acres) that his daughter will inherit.
Our argument is over my contribution to the new house. I agreed to give a portion but not leave me without anything, although I really don’t feel like it’s my responsibility to contribute at all. I pay my own health insurance, pay for hair appointments, my clothes, makeup, and for anything in the line of decor for the house or garden, out of my pension.
And if anything happened to him, I’d be left with nothing but bills and a mortgage. Am I wrong? Thank you.” -Anonymous