Anonymous writes, “My husband of 40 years is a good provider but his job is a 95% travel job. He is on a job site and comes home once a month for a long weekend…
We communicate daily. Our children are grown but we have a second adopted family. My husband will be retiring within the next 10 to 12 years. I would like to relocate and change our style of living while I am still able to do so.
He doesn’t do home repairs and I think he doesn’t realize or doesn’t want to realize how in disrepair our house is. Out of sight out of mind so to speak. I can’t sell because of the disrepair and it’s almost as if he knows this. Like a passive aggressive.
I don’t want “out of the marriage.” But I feel that I am like Peter Peter Pumpkin Eater’s wife. I am stuck. I don’t want to look back in 10 years and know I missed that 10 years of my life. I’ve raised my family and I’m happily raising the second group, but I want a change. Most days I feel like I am here revolving around his career and his life, but mine has little value. Am I wrong to feel like I can choose to move or do life since he is basically gone all the time?”