Anonymous writes, “I have the most wonderful best friend in the world. She is approaching 60 and has had quite a tough life.
Failed marriages, not her fault and she’s ended up raising four children alone. Three are wonderful and an absolute credit to mum BUT one is an absolute disgrace and I’m watching him slowly destroying his mum and its breaking my heart.
My friend is overly kind and he plays on her nature, he’s in his twenties and hasn’t worked a day in his life. He stinks, doesn’t lift a hand in the home, she’s tens of thousands of pounds in debt because she supports him financially. He is a hypochondriac and Googles conditions then says he has them and they spend most days at doctors appointments and every time they tell her he’s fine.
She has no social life because anything she’s invited to he insists on tagging along and no one wants him there because his personal hygiene is ghastly and he has no manners or social skills. He now has her convinced he’s terminally ill and she’s in a terrible way, even though everyone knows there’s nothing wrong with him. If she tries to put her foot down with him he threatens to commit suicide. How do I help her?”