“My husband has an “admirer” at his office of about 200 employees. This has been going on since the start of our marriage…
She is a co-worker in another section, but they have worked cases together (he is an upper-level LEO (Law Enforcement Officer). She asked to be allowed to accompany him on a trip out of state. She is working on the same case, but in a different aspect, and not needed at the location he would travel to, although no one would object to her going there if she came up with a good enough reason. There is flexibility in this. He didn’t say “no”, even though he knew that she was only interested in being with him, for all the wrong reasons. He has flirted with her and sent her strong signals.
Now she has asked him to come spend a long weekend with her in the new state that she is moving to. She boldly asked him in front of his young secretary, who expressed shock after this woman left. Again, he did not turn her down, he didn’t give her an answer. His excuse for not sticking up for me and our children? He didn’t want to hurt her feelings. He lied like a rug about this when I found out, playing down his role in why she was so bold and pushy. (By the way, he has no issue with hurting my feelings on a regular basis – he’s not much of a family man.)
Our kids are grown and we have grandkids now, and they come over on a regular basis. Am I being unreasonable to expect him to take a stand for our marriage, and to insist that he treat me with the same consideration that he treats this co-worker?” -Anonymous