Husband’s Dressing

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“Do any of you have problems with your husband dressing sloppily in public?

My husband works for a janitorial service and wears jogging pants and a t-shirt. He has one pair that has bleach splatters on both items. When he leaves work, he’ll meet a friend for lunch or go to the gym in those same clothes.

It embarrasses me. When I bring it up he says that I wear holey jeans and that doesn’t look right either. (They are fashionable, made to look that way.) I suggest he wear better clothes to work (not bleach splattered), and he says they’ll just get messed up and we’ll have to keep replacing them.

I know some of you are widows and will think I’m being ridiculous, but I would like for him to look nice.” -Anonymous

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  1. Not only does my husband wear sloppy clothes, but he sleeps in his shirts and wears them the next day….sometimes 2-3 days in a row unless I ask him to change. He is retired but loves to go out for breakfast and lunch (it’s a habit from working). So he goes out in public every day. I have purchased new shirts so that at least he isn’t wearing thread-bare or holey shirts. His favorite shirts are his Alumni shirts from his university and he wears them until the necks are frayed and holes in the shoulders. I have hidden them so he can use them when we paint or do other work in the house, but he finds them and wears them in public instead of his new shirts. And, too, (as we have both aged)….he has problems with his urine smell. Yep….he dribbles, so his pants (jeans, of course) smell and I have to tell him to change them. The proverbial cartoon where the wife picks up a piece of clothing and the waves of urine smells arise from it!!!!! He is obviously losing his sense of smell….it is a battle around here to keep him on track!

  2. Is your hubby a good guy otherwise? Or are the messy clothes just one thing in a list of stuff you don’t like?
    If he dresses okay when he is going somewhere with you and he is only wearing the messy clothes coming and going from his understandably messy job, maybe you are over-reacting? Is this his worst quality? If so, maybe you could cease worrying about it, buy him the new set of sweats occasionally to replace the stained ones. But if he’s working with bleach every day, they will be nice only for so long.

  3. Men see things differently than women. My husband is a concrete contractor and looks like he crawled out of a dust puddle most of the time. But he works his butt off to keep us afloat! He gets alot of attention from women the way he dresses now, I wouldn’t want him getting to pretty…….

  4. An ex of mine used to dress like a refugee….and it wasn’t because he thought it was cool, he just didn’t care. We’d go to friend’s for a party or somewhere else and he would arrive looking terrible and I’d dress for the occasion. I figured he could look like a bum if he wanted to but I would show some respect for those around me by wearing decent clothes. That wasn’t the only thing we didn’t click on…..I was born in the spring and he was born in the autumn…..birth and death hahaha!!!

  5. I don’t think men see the importance of looking nice. Throw out the clothes you don’t want to see him in! If they are work clothes, they can easily and inexpensively be replaced at any thrift store. It is not worth the angst to try change his behavior! If he asked why you are doing that, just say because you like it when he looks good! He’ll will eventually like looking good too!

  6. My husband definitely doesn’t care about his appearance. I’ve told him he’s feral. But I throw or give away stuff I don’t want him to wear. When he does dress nice, I rave over how good he looks and give him lots of attention. Therefore he likes to look nice (sometimes) Other times, I have to call him out, especially going to work raggedy.

    1. Our rule is no holes or stains or ragged bottoms. Other than that I leave him to wear what he likes when he goes out with me. If he goes out on his own, I don’t care what he looks like. I am sure he probably looks like a hobo

      1. Libby- my neighbor, who was a lovely old Englishman, used to wear horribly worn clothes out any where he’d go. Someone privately paid for his lunch on day thinking he was homeless.

  7. This drives me crazy! My husband at the age of 56, still wears his clothes saggy and wrinkled with no belt. He wears multiple items at the same time: 3 shirts and 3 pairs of pants. That goes to show you how big the clothes are. He mostly handwash these items and wears them everyday, whether to work or with me. I told him I don’t like this for 8 years. I even bought him clothes, that he picked out, to wear whenever we go somewhere together. but he goes right back to those same nasty clothes. The clothes in his closet are old but he doesn’t wear those either. I don’t want him going anywhere with me.

  8. Does he wear these clothes every where or just the occasional lunch out & gym? If he dresses nicely otherwise I don’t think it’s worth the debate. I go to a gym to swim and wear old clothes over my suit and have gone to the grocery store or lunch myself before or after so look pretty shabby sometimes. In our area we often see construction workers, farmers, meat processing plant workers, etc. in restaurants for lunch or running errands. Is it possible you think it’s a reflection on you? Good luck!

    1. Oh I hear you! My husband retired and even if we are going out to eat he dresses as HE wants. We have a son who requires multiple dr appts and goes to those appts in ripped, holy jeans. Shirts that don’t fit. Etc. if I get him nicer clothes he’ll wear them in the yard and ruin them. He doesn’t care. Makes me crazy.

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