“Been married to my second husband for almost eight years, together for approximately 10 1/2.
I’m 50 now, and after much conversation we decided to try to have a child together after getting married. We also discussed me quitting work, had been a pharmacy technician for more than two decades.
With a month left in my pregnancy I went on maternity leave and have been a stay-at-home-mom ever since. We have eight and six year old children together now. My dilemma is this… Husband refuses to make any investments in OUR names. It’s always him contributing to his current investments and I actually just stupidly agreed to him opening up two more accounts in his name only. I’m so tired of arguing over this.
I don’t know how to express to him exactly how this makes me feel. He kinda keeps eluding to “It’s my problem“ and straight up tells me that we’d figure it out in court if it ever came to that. I’d like to think that he’s not out to screw me but boy that seems naive.
Having been out of work now for close to 10 yrs, and being 50, I can easily say I’m nervous about earning a living if it came to starting over again.
Whew. Think that’s about it. I feel like I’ve sacrificed so much, including $60,000 of my own retirement to get us into a better town to raise our kids in. I’m just getting more and more deflated. Thank you in advance for any advice I can possibly use.” – Sue