“Hi, I’m feeling depleted and confused with my daughter. I’ve been struggling on my own for the past 10 years since the divorce…
She wants me to do craft projects with the grandkids and this morning I asked her if we could print a “stuffie” pattern. Her response, “no, if you want that you’ll have to buy some ink cartridges.” I was slightly thrown off by her response, but can accept it, as she also threw at me the other day that she expects me to buy groceries a few times a month also. I pay her room and board too.
She has in the past had no boundaries around her men and spent regularly on them and they didn’t respect her. I get boundaries as I’ve done 12-steps since 1991, but I find I’m getting the brunt of her lessons and she expects me to entertain the grandkids and watch over them, and interferes when I ask them to clean up after themselves. If I leave one item anywhere, she gets after me like I’m the odd one out, while the grandkids have stuff everywhere.
How do I communicate with her so she’s not soo persnickedy with me and we can all get along with respect. I buy all the material and crafty items and I’m on a fixed income. With PTSD I forget things at times and have to ask her again and she snaps at me and says, “I’ve already told you!” -Anonymous