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Those are just some of the physical aspects of menopause, not to be confused with aging: wrinkles, age spots, sallow skin, chicken skin, (not even going to bring up stretch marks from four kids), down yonder boobs, losing words and making up words (I do think this could also fall under the menopause category), and of course, grey hair. Geez, I went to my doctor today for a bi-yearly check-up, and she was asking if I peed when I coughed, sneezed, or laughed…. She told me to start doing Kegel exercises. Remember them from when you were pregnant?  Just another thing for me to remember to do during the day, while I’m sitting here typing on my blog… But the worst part is the mental and emotional state that menopause brings. The two years prior to menopause and the two years after… The worst years of your life. You begin to have anxiety, doubts, hate your husband because everything he says and does (or neglects to say or do), patience is gone. Things you used to be able to bite your tongue about, you can no longer stay silent. You worry about the stupidest things. So much sadness you think you may be depressed. You become a very insecure woman. You don’t even recognize yourself when you look inwards. That’s the stuff I wished I could’ve picked up the phone and chatted with my mom about. To see if what I was going through was NORMAL, or if I was seriously whacked. Not having that sounding board that our moms provide us, probably made my menopause experience more weightful. At the Breakers Now that I’m on the other side of the 2+ years, I have discovered that my husband is fully committed to our wedding vows (through good times and bad), and that life after your period is actually quite good. Some lessons learned:  nothing changes if nothing changes; don’t believe everything you think; and the newest version of yourself probably won’t be around for long so enjoy you while you can… before the next newest version of yourself emerges.  ]]>

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