“A litter over a year ago my son had an affair on his wife of 20 years (his sons were 17 and 20 at the time)….
It had been very difficult and heart-wrenching to see a family fall apart.
My beautiful family no longer exists. No daughter in-law, although we still text every once in a while. This has broken my daughter-in-law and grandson’s hearts as they still hurt very much.
Aside from my son breaking up his family, I have to be very careful with what I say to him so as to not push him away. He more-or-less gave me an ultimatum a while ago and said that if I didn’t meet his girlfriend (the women whom he had the affair with) then that meant I didn’t care about his happiness… and that I would probably not see him because she is his partner and will accompany him to all family social events and that’s that!
He called me the other day to tell me that he wanted to take me out for my 65th birthday to pick a nice place where I would like to go to dinner. Then he said Kim, (the girlfriend) will be accompanying him.
I’m so torn feeling like I will be betraying my daughter-in-law and grandson’s if I go and meet this woman. I’m so torn this is my son, and don’t want to lose him but I don’t want to hurt anyone by doing this. Please help me put all this into perspective.”