Anonymous needs your advice, “I have a problem with my family. My 10-year-old grandson won’t sleep in his own bed since his parents separated nearly five years ago…
He’s been sleeping in his Mum’s bed. He says that he gets lonely and frightened. He can be quite delicate at times and is a very loving and kind boy.
I believe not to force him and that he will go to his own bed when he is ready. I’ve suggested once a week and then build up to full time. When it gets close to evening he starts to get anxious and then teary. He rings me for support. The rest of the family believe he should be in his own bed.
His father has never shown any affection towards him and there have been times where he hasn’t wanted to have him on the weekend (when he’s to have him)… he even got caught in a lie that he was still away, but his son saw him.
I just want this dear boy to know that he is loved and it’s ok to sleep with Mum until he’s ready to go to his own bed. Please, could you provide any suggestions.”