Anonymous would you like your perspective. “I’ve been estranged from my daughter and her husband and two grandchildren for over a decade. My crime was having the eldest removed due to my daughter being in a physically abusive relationship at that time, and being addicted to drugs and alcohol. I tried to help her in every possible way, but eventually knew the child could no longer be in such an unsafe environment…
I raised her for nearly five years. My daughter was clean then and able to take her back. She immediately set out to destroy me by not allowing free access. She twisted the child’s mind completely, telling her I made up lies about her Mum to get her in trouble! That I wanted her all to myself!
That child now hates me and on the odd occasions I’ve seen her, has been verbally abusive (with witnesses). They want to come and visit this Sunday and I am in two minds. Yes it’s an olive branch, but there have been no respectful conversations, and I am still not allowed to have the grandchildren because I will ‘make up stories’ about my daughter. (despite all information on OT records!)
My partner says his gut is saying they’re afraid of being left out of my Will. I’ve thought of neutral ground meeting but… I actually don’t want to see them. The pain has been too intense for far too long. ANY thoughts appreciated. I’m normally a very forgiving person but I have spent years healing and putting up boundaries. Thank you for any thoughts to help unravel my mind.”