“I’ve been in a verbally and emotionally abusive marriage for 16 years. He’s bullied and tried to control me…
Calls me awful names. Starts fights over ridiculous things. He’s always angry about something and doesn’t talk to me for weeks on end. Now it’s the pandemic and I lost my job. He still has his very well-paying job but fights me tooth and nail on helping me keep up with bills such as electricity.
So, I’m always stressed. He’s a narcissist and it brings out the worst in me as I find myself getting wrapped up in it and saying mean things and I hate it! I just want a happy and most important, a peaceful life.
I’m going to put our house up for sale in the spring. That’s the only way I can afford to move out. He’s agreed as he wants to also move on and “ find a new girlfriend and be happy.”
My problem is I’m having complete panic/ anxiety attacks over living on my own. (he’s completely convinced me I don’t have the ability to do it and I’m to old. Also tells me I have dementia… I don’t. I’m 61). He tells me I’m well on my way to Alzheimer’s.
My question is, has anyone else had these panic/ anxiety attacks in a similar situation? How did you handle it?” -Anonymous