Prayers for Mom with Alzheimer’s

I have a beautiful mother who would give you anything you needed… She has been my rock during my divorce for the past nine years and the best grandmother to all her grandkids. She is 73. Been married to my dad for 54 years – he is is 10 years older and used to being spoon fed (literally) by my mom. Very stubborn and old fashioned. He has been unkind and selfish my whole life. I have very few memories of him being a nice dad… My mom has done her best with him and learned to live with him. About two years ago she would call me crying over and over that she could not live with him anymore, that he makes her life miserable… I would pray and comfort her and tell her to be strong…

Well, eventually dementia kicked in along with many physical ailments that accompany this horrible disease. My brother and I take turns one day a week to go there and clean, bring a dish of food, sit and talk and comfort her.

My father is the issue… he is not a nice man, yells at me and my brother to take her to get a pill and “fix” her problem… yesterday he vented outside to neighbors that I dressed my mom in winter clothes (she was wearing a black cardigan because it was chilly) nothing wrong with it just the fact he deemed it inappropriate clothing for August, and continued to seek sympathy for “all he’s going through” to the neighbor… “poor him” speech…

He demands my brother and I hire a person to live in house and care for her or a good portion of the day… he stopped sending her out to local stores per doctor request to “you can’t leave her alone” which he did many times… He is very independent and wants his life the way it was, including my mom dressing up and going out with him “when he wants to.”

My brother and I are just beside ourselves. We don’t know what to do… he refuses to sell his home and move near one of us (we are both an hour and half away from their city).¬†Getting down there around my two jobs is hard, but I do it for my MOM who deserves it and more … I’m just sad and depressed for my mom and feeling like I’m letting her down because of my father’s nastiness… Please pray for my MOM and for peace in our family.