“I am 50 and I have three daughters who all went to university. The youngest is 18 and has just started her first year and is living in student accommodations in London. In this Covid-world, I know being a student is different than the experiences of my older daughters…
My youngest doesn’t like drinking or being out late – so she hasn’t gone out with new people even when invited. She keeps herself to herself and doesn’t really involve herself with her new flat mates – all her own choice though. All the teaching is online. She has been in London for several weeks so far and has come home every weekend.
Here is my problem: my husband and I have scrimped and saved to fund each child through university. We live in a small three bed, rented house and have for 10 years. The girls always had the largest rooms. Our bedroom was always a tiny box room that only fits our bed. I hang my clothes in the bathroom and my husband keeps his under the bed in a bag.
Anyway, a few weeks ago we started decorating the biggest bedroom. This was my youngest daughter’s (and since her older sister left she has had it to herself for three years) and all the girls always knew that once everyone left home we would change bedrooms and my husband and I would finally have a proper bedroom.
My daughter arrived home this weekend and was VERY angry that she wasn’t able to sleep in ‘her’ room because the furniture was moved and the walls were half painted. We had another bedroom that she could’ve used but she said it wasn’t good enough. She immediately packed her things and left to go and stay with her boyfriend.
Are we doing the wrong thing? She can still come home, but will need to sleep in a different room. My husband and I feel like it is our time now and we deserve to have a proper room to sleep in finally. Are we wrong? Thank you.” -Anonymous.