“My partner’s son is 23 and there is a chance he will be coming to live with us in September when he finishes his studies…
For the three years that I have lived with my partner his son has been at university and has come home on the holidays. My partner can be extremely negative which I usually try to counter with humour however when he and his son are together, they discuss politics, and I usually make myself scarce and end up feeling like an outcast in my own home.
And the thought of him coming home for any length of time fills me with dread to the point where I feel I would move out if he did. I feel I would be asking my partner to choose between me or his son and that isn’t the case at all I just feel his son living with us would not be best for any of us.
I suffer with anxiety myself and this situation is making me feel dreadful. If there have been any arguments between the son and I in the past my partner would not intervene. I know it must be difficult for my partner to do the right thing but my concerns have gotten so bad they are taking over my day-to-day life. I just do not know what to do and need some advice.” -Anonymous