Should I Take His Last Name

“I have been seeing a romantic traditionalist and we are planning on marriage. He was married twice before, the last divorce was 17 years ago. When the topic of taking his last name came up…

I informed him I do not want to share his last name because his previous two wives still use his last name. To change my name to his, I feel it’s a sacred thing in a marriage. But as two other women are still using his name, the act of me sharing his name a third time, has been cheapened.

This has upset him some, saying he understands, but that it’s a signal for the world to know we belong together, traditionally. He has left the decision to me, but I can’t help but wonder why I feel so strongly about this. Any input about this will greatly be appreciated!” -Anonymous

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