Sixty-two year old Widow

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Anonymous writes: “I am a 62 years old widow who loved my husband dearly but knows he is not coming back.

I have lots of family around who thinks after such a long and happy marriage I should now just stay alone. But I am lonely and in need of someone to have a relationship with where I can be loved and share all this love I have bottled up inside. I get depressed thinking of spending the rest of my life alone. I go to church, I have friends but l need that special closeness that I am accustomed to and it is driving me crazy”

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  1. I too have lost my husband after 35 years of marriage. It will be 3 years in December. My daughter and grandchildren live in another state and so does my son. I retired early last December and after about 6 months, I didn’t really know what to do with myself. I live alone in my home and have 4 cats. I decided to go back to work part-time to keep myself busy. I can’t speak for anyone else, but I can speak for me. I am still grieving and I miss my husband dearly. But at this time, I am not interested in dating or seeking any type of relationship. I have friends who are dating and when I hear some of their stories about dating, I just feel no way am I ready for that. I enjoy my freedom right now and I make the most of my time. My son suggested that I start dating. I just feel right now, that I don’t need the aggravation of dating or a relationship. I am happy with where I am right now.

  2. My mother was alone after my father died for 3 years at 59. She called me and my brothers too, asking if we would get upset if she remarried. My brothers said yes they would, but I told her no. She deserved to be as happy as any of us. She had 10 yrs of fun and happiness with my step father. Give yourself some time like my mom did as she went thru some changes with my dad gone. Prayers and blessings of Love

    1. I remember being about 10 years old. My dad had been gone since I was 1. My mom never dated..her life was me. She was asked out one time and asked me what I thought she should do. I threw a fit…telling her no way should she go out with anyone. She didn’t go.I am now the age she was when she died. I so regret that I was so selfish. She could have found happiness and loved mire than us kids and her grandkids. Please do what makes you happy. Life goes by too quickly to be sad and lonely.

      1. Go through your grieving the best you can ( it really never goes away) find yourself with new adventures and god will show you the way.
        Hugs prayers and have a peaceful heart and soul🌸

      2. Such beautiful reflection. Your story made me cry. I munna told my seventy five-year old mom: Be happy and don´t waste time in unimportant matters.

  3. I understand how you feel. I don’t believe that God designed us to be alone. I met my husband on an online dating site. It was the only way to screen people looking for the same things you’re looking for. I recommend to go on the dating sites you pay for. The free sites are not good. I met my husband on match. I’m 60 and have been married for 3 years. I’ve never been this happy! Good luck dear!

    1. I am alone now too. We were married 55 years ,were blessed with 4 children and now have 7 grands. They don’t live near me and I am mobile,I can still drive. I am now 77 and Aug. 9 of this year will be a year my husband died.He had lung cancer that had spread. I with the help of Hospice I care of him at home.My problem is I have no desire to do anything. I watch Netflix and get nothing productive done. I don’t want to cook anymore.Thank goodness I have my little dog,I do get out to walk him. I’m hoping after this year I will b come me again.

      1. I’m sorry for your loss. I understand about not wanting to do anything, I too experienced that after my husband died. I’m thrilled that you have your furry companion. Perhaps you can befriend another dog walker in your area as it is so vital to not stop living

        Ponder this for a moment…. if things were reversed and your spouse lost all interest in engaging in life, how would that make you feel? It is okay to grieve, but don’t stop truly living…honor your spouses memory by living you life to the fullest. I’m not say to forget them as they will always be with you. Please take it one day at a time. Sending you a big hugs 💕

      2. My husband has been gone k e year as well. I haven’t had any interest in doing anything productive either. I will ptay for healing for both of us.

  4. My precious mother in law was devastated when her husband left her just after their 25th anniversary. She longed for the closeness they’d shared and was open to finding a new love but it never happened. Many years later she still misses what she had.
    My advice is give yourself some time to heal & then follow your heart.

    1. I have the same, the very same story as yours. Sad, very sad. I feel I am too young to give up and too old to move on.

    1. Fact 1. Friends & Family who give the advice to ‘ stay alone’ are usually > too young to know that void,> are married or have partners to know your void > Or young with youthful besties to share their days and holidays with endlessly and carefree.
      Fact 2. Your are far toooo young to not too love again
      Fact 3. Place yourself in a good relaxed place away from negativity & to regain thoughts of > -needs-wants.
      What can you live with?
      What can’t you live with?
      Get to know the new, single YOU.
      What are all the life skills, your loves, your interests, your hobbies that need to be redefined, and brought to the table of a new relationship? Enjoy the courting, and lots of shared laughter.

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