Ask yourself why others, family members and friends, distance themselves from you? Try to consciously readjust your behavior - do your best to be positive, smile, and pleasant when interacting with others. Find, and engage in, a hobby that interests you and brings you joy. The people around you cannot be happy in your company unless you are happy. Good luck. You can do it. Your Greyfeather's family are here for support. ✨🌻
I went through the menopause at 40, thought I’d breezed it, no hot flushes or anything, felt great until I broke my ankle at 57 and was then diagnosed with osteoporosis of the spine.. look after yourself, eat well and excercise, I didn’t want to take hrt and risk breast cancer, especially with no symptoms, I don’t regret what I did, just have to be careful, you can’t hold back the tide 🥺
I started with peri meno symptoms at age 41/2.
I tried natural methods of controlling symptoms but eventually went on to HRT. It was the best decision for me.
I'm now 51 & doing ok.. you can't hold back nature but you can manage symptoms xx
For me it took a couple of years to make it through. Hot flashes, brain fog, a bit moody. Then once on the other side thin skin, thick waist, less strength. But, my lifetime of uncontrollable MIGRAINES is finally relieved. And, oddly, I have more energy than I ever did before. It's not all bad. I would not go back!
Get ready for the ride of your life.
Everyone is different, so it's difficult to recommend anything, specifically. I'm 63 and it hit me like a freight train at age 40. I've never experienced anything like it - misery for 15 years. I just learned to live with it, as best I could. And, I still have hot flashes from time to time. It was very rough for me. I hope your pathway through menopause is smooth.💞
No hot flashes. Very dry skin. Suddenly feeling like I was fainting, which interfered with my normal activities. It lasted a few years. Then total relief, as I had terrible cramps. Gradual loss of sexual impulse, which coincided with my husbands disease, so it was fine. Never did hormone therapy, as it was not recommended by my doctor because of breast bump.
It was a blessing for me after years of debilitating menstrual cramps monthly, I had no negative side affects, hot flashes now and again but nothing nearly as bad as my monthly cramps were.
Consult your OBGYN that has treated you over the years and is familiar with you, your cycle and your medical history. Everyone of us is different and so are our bodily functions. We all experience Menopause differently. Consult the professional that you are familiar with so that you are not trying to self diagnose and get a lot of different answers from a lot of different women who all have different experiences with their own cycle and with menopause.❤
Please, please make an appointment with your gynecologist. I was 47 and having night sweats and no period for 6 months. My doctor at first thought it was symptoms due to peri-menopause. Come to find out after the third visit that I was stage 3 ovarian cancer. make sure they do a CA 125 and a complete pelvic exam. Please!
I had one year of heavy periods and then they just stopped. I have hot flashes here and there but I have noticed when I get stressed I have more. No hormones and I feel fine. My MIL took hormones and it just delayed menopause, she still had to go through it. I think everyone has to decide what is right for them. I am 57, I am a pre-k teacher still energetic and going strong
Everyone is different. I had hot flashes and my sister had none. It’s nature and even with hormone replacement you will get some effects and you can’t take them forever as they can give their own complications and side effects. Let nature take its course and treat or cope with things as they come along... if they come along.
I just turned 50 and it started for me in my mid 40s. I’m not taking anything and I feel fine. I have occasional hot flashes and some of the cycles I do still have are heavier, but not unmanageable. I decided a long long time ago that I didn’t want to take hormones.
I let nature do it's thing. VERY GLADLY. I've had hot flashes and night sweats but it's not been crazy. I guess all in all I've had maybe a dozen days out of 6 years that I felt miserable
It will come with or without your permission. There are ways to make it easier, more comfortable. I continued to take a dose of hormones. But they warn you of other side effects of doing that. I was fortunate that I got through it all. My daughter had breast cancer and you can't add to the hormones that would make it worse. You will find you no longer want to snuggle against your husband, he's too hot now. You will sleep in light nighties with one leg out from under the covers. Turtle necks are out. You will find it can affect your sleep. Some days you will feel like Clint Eastwood with a "make my day " attitude. You and your friends will have new jokes.
I have to say I didnt have any symptoms at all. I know friends who suffered terribly. I would always talk to a good homeopath if I had concerns as I would take the natural route and there are lots of good natural remedies out there to use.
Let nature take it's course. Treat symptoms naturally. I took that time to think of my life as a reboot. I decided to eat better, exercise more, destress and enjoy! I'm through it and loving life. I have more energy and a healthy libido. I'm healthier and calmer. It's a win win. God bless you and good luck on your journey.
Everybody is so different. You should definitely talk to a doctor you trust. Preferably a woman doctor. I could not take estrogen because I had a lump removed years earlier. I did have to go on an antidepressant for awhile to deal with severe mood swings. I didnt take anything else and I pretty much breezed through it. A few mild hot flashes, heavy bleeding, and the aforementioned mood swings. The worst for me was my sleeping patterns became wonky. I still wake up at odd times and cant go back to sleep, and I've been out of menopause for about 12 years. It was actually a blessing for me because I had suffered every since I got my period, and now I am FREE!!! I have a friend who takes all kinds of natural stuff and she is still going through it after at least 10 years. She wont go to a doctor and I think she would be better off if she let nature take its course. You just have to find what works for you, but if it doesnt work then try something else!!!
I just went with it. I never minded my period because in my mind I was still
Young. I didn’t take anything or do anything different. Personally I would put the effort into your mental wellness and keep that strong. Because that also helps with your physical wellness. Welcome to the club. ❤️
Just remember, you cant really measure your reaction by other people. It is a very individual process. I started menopause at 48 and came through it in 8 years I was on hrt and it was great but then I came off it last year and that was a mistake. I still had many of the symptons including really bad hot flushes and night sweats so I went back on hrt (oestrogel body identical with progesterone tablets) and I feel myself again. But then you can compare my experience to my sister, who sailed through with barely a flush. We are all different. It can be managed and you will find your way. Dont discount any help or advice. You may be afraid to try hrt but it might work for you. Good luck xx
I am 80 and I just let nature take her course. Don’t be afraid. I took no supplements and remained sexually active. My periods just tapered off and stopped. And even at this age I have a wonderful boyfriend! Think positive and just go with it!
My sister had breast cancer. When they tested the cancer during surgery, she was advised that it was hormone based. Her hormone therapy for menopause caused her cancer. So when I went through menopause the doctors wouldn’t give me hormones. It was bad at times but once it was over it was better.
sometimes it’s never over had a hysterectomy at 39 took hormone replacement at. 43. for 13 yrs.
i’m now 77 and still get symptoms
Just go with nature. Important thing is diet and weight bearing exercise. I did HRT for 10 yrs, then stopped it. Then was diagnosed with breast cancer in which HRT can contribute to. ( I didn’t know it at the time I was doing HRT) weight bearing exercise help big in helping to prevent osteoporosis
Also take a Vitamin D supplement.
I went on HRT for years felt great but when I went off in my 60:s still went through menopause .
If I hadn't taken some kind of hormone replacements, I would have wound up in jail for killing someone just for the heck of it, or drowned in a river tears. Natural hormone therapy gave me my like back. Don't feel or be shamed into feeling like you have to just tough but out.
Blee. I was 42 when I started the menopause, I thought I was going crazy, huge mood swings, hrt was a godsend and worked like a charm, my hot flashes were so bad I had to sleep on a towel, I’m now 57 and suffering breakthrough bleeds lasting 12 days, lots of tests and apart from a tiny fibroid, they can’t find a cause 😕
I had to stop hrt while they investigated, I was straight back to hot flashes and tears 🙁
I used to do emergency foster care, that was sometimes difficult finding things that interested them.. But cooking always worked. Making pizza from scratch or sausage rolls with grated vegetables. Here’s my grandson being very careful.
Just relax. He has a lot to deal with. Just be gentle with him. Let him play his games and have a conversation over mealtimes. Crack a joke. Cook his favourite meal. When he is ready you will be able to introduce new activities. Keep remembering he is your grandson to cherish rather than a project to fix. All the best.
Just love him. Ask him what he would like to do. If you can get in the car and go thru a drive thru and maybe go to a park or somewhere interesting to eat in the car. I've had the best conversations with my grandkids in the car.
It must be hard on him living with depressed and disinterested parents...hard on you too trying to fill the gap. You could try doing old fashioned games with him, like junior scrabble (educational) as well as letting him play video games, or playing cricket outside. You sound as though you’ve tried most things though. Bottom line: just let him know you love him and don’t put too much pressure on him or yourself. Good luck.
Play the vid3o games, learn,,play along. Do your own research to find video games that may be healthier message to introduce him to. Possibly connect with local library, there may be a group that you can connect with his age. They may also have resources for adults with children in similar situations. Community centers may have a place where you can find support and suggestions in your area. There are children with conditions that go undetected by parents where video games may be the only way they relate, there being a reason for you to se3k professional help, guidance for you, and him.
Board games! Is there a pet in the household? Can't do much socializing lately. He'll turn out just fine, he has you.
My grandsons feed the squirrels and birds. We live in the country. They also did a compost and had a garden. We have a fire pit and invite family and friends over for smores during the summer. just talk to him and see if he has any interest, my grandson loved building the rockets in the winter and setting them off in the spring. Get him away from the game system during meals and talk to him.
Start by playing videos with him... from that you will find out what he is up to.
Does he have any other interests besides video games? He is not alone, so many kids since this pandemic are cut off and focused only on electronics. Try getting him outside for a walk , bike ride etc. Does he or do you have a dog? A dog can be an incredible emotional up lifter for people . Does he like to help cook or bake? It’s such a tough time for people, I hope you and your family stay safe🤗
I am raising my grandaon now 13. He is homeschooled because of Covid and he is HFA and our school doesn't do well with Autisic children. He has social issues so I understand. The covid situation had made it difficult and depressing for our children. Mine is a avid gamer bit I control the amount of time. We play board games he collect Monopoly games so we play. I do play video games with him. Some are actually fun. Play dates ..
Are a no go because of covid. He has a difficult time with the mask so with our age, we stay at home alot. We do take walks. How about getting him interested in photography?
My grandkids understand up front that electronic are limited if NONE at my house. Are there any organizations around such as a club where he could play sports. Or like here we have Sky Zone which is a huge indoor trampoline facility. Or even a rock climbing facility. You dont necessarily need to participate just be engaged.
If you want to engage your grandchildren you must learn to do it on their terms, then you may introduce your passions and find common ground
I connect with my grandkids by feeding them their favorite foods going on nature walks or even a longer car ride. I personally wouldn't worry about socializing especially during a pandemic. If he does have an interest afterwards help him pay for joining that activity.
Try to find other things to do with him....maybe science museums when things open back up. But be careful not to discount his interest in the gaming. Remember you said it is a means of connecting with his friends. Ask him about the gaming & listen to his virtual adventures (many of the games have plots) and maybe he will be more open to creating “real” adventures with you. Kids who are adept at video gaming may go on to excell in lucrative careers. So be careful not to dismiss his major interest. (I realize we tend to view it with the same “idiot box” label we used to apply to Tv. ).
Just find what he likes and do that..all mine are different... My gamer loves to go to the arcade...and lives to eat..so going to lunch or helping me cook... One loves Starbucks and trying on clothes at the mall...one loves baking ..and doing crafts..I conform to them..
Play video games with him. Ask him where he would like to go. Invite a friend to come along when you go somewhere.
You are his safe place. Don't try to change him. Just let him feel safe and accepted with you. Y'all can fix his favorite foods together, start a progressive project that interests him, etc.
Stop trying so hard. He's a child. Be granny to him. If he wants to talk, you listen. If you feel you need to advise, try but shut up if you think he's offended. You just be there for him.
My grandchildren never get to do video games when i frequently watch them. I tell them they are in the real world zone. I have a ton of toys to engage 6, 8 and 10 year olds. I have crafte. They play with my dog. We walk outside.
We also talk. I share family atories. We discuss moral issues...what would you do if...
All people love to talk about themselves. Once you get them talking, ask questions. Praise them.
Play video games with him. I am 68 and started playing Minecraft with my grandkids 4 years ago. I have a PS4 and we play together even when they are at their houses. We build worlds together, explore,and complete challenges.
There are lots of life lessons in this game. We have learned that I am better at building farming fishing and mining. They are better at exploring and adventuring.
They love teaching me new things in the game.
Minecraft is like LEGO’s, you can build amazing builds one block at a time but it is a one time cost ( LEGO’s are crazy expensive) and you never step on the pieces.
I built my actual house and their houses in Minecraft ( you can play creative or survival)
Video games can be an amazing connection.
Good that u r aware of talking too much.
Perhaps u can make use of this shortfall of yours as a joint challenge between u n your grandson. Acknowledge it to him n say you'd like his help to curb your bad habit by having him count the number of times u do it on a daily basis. Give him a bit of say to remind u to stop. Set a few important rules: Mutual respect in language n tone.
It may be a game n u 'll soon realize how difficult it is to change our habits. Explain this in short n simple terms. Get him to join in the challenge with one habit he would by himself name that he'd like to change. Please don't input at all - it's part of role modelling respect.
Just plan a few things like a little adventure..pack a lunch and go for a hike or rock hunting. Bowling, paint date, or miniature golf.. you will find he will enjoy something once you get him out doing things.
Pull the breaker in the panel box.
Indoor herb garden could a joint venture. Dont have the room, try use plant pots.
Try something with a purpose, like a craft. Something he can build and take pride in?