“I married very young, and my husband left me before our first child was born.
I lost most of my family because of my decision to choose him over them. I was young, foolish, and in love and the only way he would have me back was to live with his father who hated me.
He never was faithful but I didn’t care when my children were small (I did care really but wanted to keep the family together). When they grew up, I got very lonely and met my now husband. But I handled leaving home very badly and left one of my children to live with my husband. Something I had discussed with the child (15 years old) as I had no home to offer to them. I walked out the door with the clothes on my back and left the family home so they would always have a home to come back to. A very bitter divorce ensued and eventually he turned both children against me.
Twenty years of lonely Hell have passed now, and the wife of one of my children got in touch some time ago to allow me to see the grandchildren of their marriage. I was reluctant as I was afraid it would be a one-time deal but all was going well until lately, and now she says she is coming and she never shows up. I have no idea how to handle this. Do I cut contact or take what I can get?
I have never seen my grandchildren from my other child. My ex-husband spared nothing to ruin my reputation; my lawyer even said she never seen the equal of him. My children know he had other women while with me, but it seems that was ok.
Any advice greatly appreciated. Thanks so much to anyone who took the time to read this.” -Anonymous