Phyllis has some very useful information: “My mother died in 2011. She was a widow for 15 years. She had dementia since 2008. She did not want to move near me so I took care of her from afar. Another state.
I arranged for home care, managed her bills, etc. From 2008-2010 she had numerous caregivers from an agency. In 2010 someone asked me if I had my moms wedding rings. It never occurred to me to ask her. She removed them when my father died and kept them in her jewelry box. So in 2010, when I visited her, I asked her about her rings. She walked over to her jewelry box, lifted the lid, and said, “oh…. I don’t know.” And walked away. In her right mind she would have been hysterical. They were gone! Her rings and my fathers wedding rings were tied together with a yellow ribbon.
My parents lived very frugal lives. Did not have fancy things. The only thing she had that was worth anything were her rings. A caregiver stole from her. I am heart sick. Other things were stolen that I didn’t care about.
I want to give a heads up to others whose parents are dependent on caregivers and they live in another state. Get the valuables out of the house before ANY caregiver comes into the home.”