Anonymous writes, “I am 64 and my husband is 76. Both retired. Our daughter lives close but, by her choice, has estranged herself from our lives. Our son lives 6 hours away…
My husband has no siblings left and is not close at all to nieces and nephews. I have siblings, all older.
We have come to a point in our lives where we are needing help with some things. We are in poor health. If I share things with my son he gets really stressed over his inability to assist due to distance. He will have panic attacks. He used to talk about getting a job closer to home to be near us, but now he has a fiance who doesn’t want to move.
We have realized that we have no one. That thought is starting to overwhelm me. If I were to die first, I don’t think my husband could keep up with the care of the house and yard. The thought of moving to an assisted living place unnerves me.
What do people do in my situation? I am so depressed over this. (I came from a family with six siblings and as my parents aged, they had all of us that were there for them. I guess that is why I am just now realizing that we dont have that. It scares me.)”